A Survival Guide To Defeating The Suckers and Avoid Becoming A Zombie

That’s right. It’s Part 3 of the Vampire Slayer series. This is where we bring out your inner van Helsing and give you your very own Vampire Slayer kit – a definitive way to find out who your favorite vampire is and how to stab a stake right through their heart.

In Part #1 and Part #2, we explained the extreme damage these negative people can have in our lives, how to read the warning signs of their presence, as well as the methods we need to use to define to ourselves that we are indeed under attack.

One of the most debilitating problems victims face is actually quantifying and admitting to being a victim. So it’s an essential part of the cure to get that step out of the way.

If you suspect you may be a victim, Part #1 and Part #2 are a great place to remove all doubt.

In this installment, we discuss what needs to be done to get out of the situation and vanquish the vampire – permanently.

This is where the action is at.

So buckle down, start sharpening your stakes and call Father Benedict down at your local chapel for some holy water.

When the going gets tough….you know the rest…

Roll on Part #3!

 

 

 

 

 

IT USUALLY STARTS OFF WELL…

Are there any Wayne’s World fans in the house?

There are??? (read on even if you are not one, maybe you’re a fan but you don’t know it yet!).

WOW! Extreme close-up!!!

Remember when it was time for Wayne’s World Totally Amazing, Excellent Discoveries program segment?

Ron Paxton waltzes down those stairs into Wayne’s studio, proud as Punch, carrying the Suck-Cut.

That’s right – THE revolution in home hair cutting.

As Wayne said, the question on everybody’s mind was “How does it work?”

And good old Ron, of course, is “fully prepared to give a complete demonstration” – on Garth’s melon.

So, a few seconds later, during the “Get-A-Load-Of-This-Guy-Cam”, Garth is screaming “Get it off man, get it off!! It’s sucking my will to live!”

Party time! Excellent!

 

LOVE BITES, LOVE BLEEDS

Kidding apart, it’s funny how some people just remind me of the Suck-Cut.

Is there anyone in your life right now who is sucking out your will to live?

Well, whether you like it or not, admit it or deny it, there probably is.

And it’s probably someone who can get dangerously close to you to be able to sink their fangs into you.

Well, in How to Slay A Vampire Part 1 and Part 2, we went over ways in which we could identify these monsters.

Sometimes, even just acknowledging there is something this horrifying living with us is the toughest step of all (if losing your joy of life because of someone else isn’t horrifying, I really don’t know what is).

That said, identifying the problem is all well and good.

Deep down in our hearts, we always know what is truly good for us…and what is not.

So we probably always knew the answer anyway – we just needed confirmation. And re-affirmation.

You see, a lot of times, it’s our head that interferes with our heart – the brain starts jettisoning wrenches into the works so that we doubt our better judgment.

The heart never lies after all.

Then again, even when we do finally convince ourselves that we are indeed in the company of a vampire, we hit the next big hurdle.

The overwhelming dilemma at that point is to find the best way to get them out of our lives.

Or at least put them in a place where they can cause the least harm possible, if sticking a stake right into their hearts is not on the cards.

With that in mind, here are the best ways to do that.

 

GET UP AND WALK

Have you ever noticed that some people just love playing on the emotional strings of others?

They just get off on controlling the atmosphere and dictating what sentiments your heart should be focusing on.

When you have someone dangling your heart around like a marionette, you are basically their prisoner.

It’s virtually impossible to be truly happy when you are not even in control of your feelings.

Seriously, do you really need someone like this in your life?

Should it even be a question?

Isn’t that like asking if you would want to sit on a cactus?

The only solution to a situation like this – when you know the person is not going to change – is to just move on.

You see, someone who controls you and your heart this way, feels powerful while wielding that control.

There is really no reason for them to relinquish that power.

They just won’t do it. They are calling the shots. They are the ones in charge.

Why should they change?

So, while in some circumstances it is strength to stay in there and weather the storm, in this particular case, the real strength is to let go and just move on.

The change that will happen in your life when this vampire is dead will be…well…life-changing.

It will give you a sense of freedom that will infuse your entire existence and the direction your life will take.

 

NO, IT’S NOT OK

OK, granted, in a lot of cases, just removing a vampire from your life or simply walking away yourself will be tough.

Note that I did not say impossible.

Nothing is impossible.

But for a lot of people, “tough” and “impossible” are interchangeable.

There you are, stuck with this vampire in your life, with seemingly no way to go.

So what do a lot of people do in this case, in an attempt to handle the situation?

That’s right. That old river in Egypt trick.

Denial!

“Nah, it’s all in my mind.”

“Can’t be. I’m imagining things.”

“But deep down, he/she loves me. I know it.”

And, perhaps the most terrible classic of all:

“Maybe it’s really my fault, I’m putting him/her in that situation.”

Sadly, they try to convince themselves that there is actually no problem.

That it is all in their mind.

Or they tell themselves they can handle it, that they are really the ones in control.

Or that it doesn’t really affect them that much.

Which is of course, completely the wrong approach to take,

Stop!

Just S T O P pretending that it is OK.

It’s NOT.

There is a specific reason why these vampires like emotional control.

They find it gratifying, because that power gives them preferential treatment.

More often than not, it is “easier” to just give them what they need to shut them up (for a very short while) than having to deal with them.

Well, funnily enough, the shortest road is almost never the one you should take, is it?

What actually happens when you pander to these vampires’ desires, is that you are putting them in a stronger place.

You are actually rewarding them for their negativity.

You wouldn’t give a dog a treat for biting you, would you?

So, what do you think happens when someone is given a reward for something they have done?

That’s right – they are going to do a hell of a lot more of it.

Your short term reward is a guarantee of long term pain.

And you better believe that is most definitely not OK.

So – stop taking it and walk.

And, if you cannot walk away quietly and be done with it, then you just have one solution left.

 

LET THEM HAVE IT

Oh yes. You have to smack them in the face with it.

Or, for the more timid of us, try simply telling them about it.

But there are no two ways around it.

Stop hiding things under the carpet.

Stop taking a beating.

There are only so many hits that you can take after all.

Yes, even if you consider yourself as strong as an ox. The damage will still be there.

So put an end to it as fast as you can.

Just up and tell them they cannot feed off you anymore.

Show them you know what they are up to and absolutely tell them it’s not right.

And you won’t be having any more of it.

You see, a lot of vampires will capitalize on the fact that very few people will speak up.

You know what I am talking about – grumbling is one thing but speaking up is another.

We will have a multitude of people who complain in the shadows, whispering about how things are not right, or how tough they have it, or how bad the world is.

And how we are all going to hell down a greased slide in a wicker basket.

But when it comes to taking a stand and speaking your mind, these champions of righteousness just disappear. Like morning mist.

What do you think that’s going to change?

Exactly –absolutely NOTHING.

So yes, you – I am pointing to YOU – just learn to speak your mind.

Notice I have never mentioned how easy that is going to be. In fact, it won’t be.

Vampires will use a lot of psychological ploys to make sure your mouth stays shut.

They may completely ignore you to make you feel powerless.

They may use feigned indignation or even anger.

They may try to shout you down or try to belittle you.

However, remember, most vampires are terrified of the daylight.

When you hit them with the truth, and stick to your guns, most will just disappear in a puff of dust and smoke.

Their tactic is social manipulation – they are just playing on the fact that you will be too taken aback to react.

So, I cannot emphasize the urgency of the next point enough.

 

TAKE A STAND

Whatever happens, whatever the reaction that you get, do NOT back off.

Keep your calm.

Stand your ground.

Show the vampire that they will not have their way with you or control you anymore.

Keep in mind that this person in your life is poisoning everything you have.

Your happiness, your goals, your dreams, your options, your choices – everything.

Yes, it’s still all about sucking out your will to live – and what you decide to do about it.

Keeping a vampire around will destroy you in the end.

So, it’s truly worth that little extra courage just to show them you will not allow them to harm you, or use you to their own ends.

If they won’t walk away, then YOU walk out of the picture.

Whatever you do, it’s absolutely vital to show them you will not tolerate their negativity anymore.

 

IT’S NOT PERSONAL

As already pointed out, one of the most effective tools that vampires use is manipulation.

They are consummate experts at using guilt tripping as a means to get others to doubt themselves and their own feelings.

It also doesn’t help that the guilt button on most of us is quite easy to trigger.

It just takes one twinge on it – and that little ripple of niggling doubt grows into a tidal wave, eating into your self-confidence, your judgment and your resolve.

And that’s exactly what a vampire will go for.

However, awareness of this tactic will greatly reduce its impact.

Forewarned is, after all, forearmed.

The one thing to keep in mind here is that – IT’S NOT YOU.

Vampires are vampires by nature. They generate negativity and project it into all those around them.

It’s not you. Don’t take it personally.

Guard your emotional freedom with your life.

 

THE PROBLEM VS THE PROBLEM MAKER

I do agree that some vampiric behavior may stem from an actual problem, a condition or a situation that the vampires themselves may be going through in their lives.

They may be genuinely suffering themselves – after all, there are a multitude of things that can happen in life that will bring anyone to their knees.

However, one over-whelming point to highlight here is this – nothing, but nothing that happens in our lives is a reason to take it out on someone else.

That’s unacceptable – any which way you look at it.

So, never condone this kind of behavior. We are just a guilty as the vampire feeding on us if we pander to their feeding habits and allow them to continue.

All that does is add fuel to the fire and make the vampire realize that their negativity will bring about results.

That’s regardless on any detrimental effect it may have on the victim.

They don’t really care – the most important person in a vampire’s life is, after all, the vampire.

 

COME UP AND BREATHE

Finally, let us suppose that, even after all this, you just can’t bring yourself to exorcise that vampire out of your life.

Despite all the harm they are causing you, you have just decided to let them suck the life out of you till you have nothing more to give.

At the very least, in this case, do make time in your life to come up for some air.

Take some time out. You will definitely need a break to get in some R & R.

Though this is not the best solution, it will at least give you some breathing space and some much needed respite from what is effectively, a very dangerous situation (yes, whether you agree with the gravity of the situation or not).

There are two things needed for this to happen:

First, you need to at least have the cojones to ask for a respite.

Second, the vampire needs to acquiesce – and, if not, the aforementioned cojones, will (hopefully) help you stand your ground and take your time out, anyway.

Though this last scenario is definitely not the best solution, it’s the final resort when someone just can’t pluck up the courage to face their vampire and vanquish them.

Whichever way you look at it, your best bet is always staking the vampire the death.

Remove them from your life. Completely.

Whatever it takes.

Remember, if you don’t make your own destiny, someone else is going to make it for you.

So, start sharpening that stake, get the garlic ready and the water blessed.

It’s time to hunt your vampire down and slay them.

 

 

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