ARE YOU STUCK IN LIFE RIGHT NOW?

HERE IS HOW TO GET OUT OF THE HOLE

I was talking to one of my clients last night.

“It’s Christmas”, she said. “Another year is over and I feel stuck. I simply don’t know where to go from here. It’s so frustrating. I could be so much better than this. I deserve more than this.”

And you could hear the anger and disappointment in her voice too.

Spinning your wheels is really not a funny place to be.

And yes I do believe that people deserve more than they are giving themselves in life.

It’s why I do what I do – coaching people to get them where they deserve to be – physically, mentally and emotionally.

And I love seeing people win.

So, let’s set a few things straight.

First off – getting stuck is pretty common.

As a life performance coach, it’s one of the most common things people complain to me about.

A lot (make that way too many) people are not getting where they want to in life.

They feel they deserve better, they know they could do more – but, the wheel just isn’t turning, or worse, it’s just spinning over and over. Wasted energy.

People can get stuck at any stage – it doesn’t really matter how advanced you are in anything in life.

I have seen 18 year olds get stuck and I have seen company CEOs do the same thing.

The dreaded hole can swallow anyone up – yes, including me. I’m not immune to anything.

THERE ARE TWO KINDS OF PEOPLE…

However, there is a marked difference in how people deal with falling in.

If I wanted to sound like one of those snazzy Pinterest pictures, I would say there are two kinds of people.

Those that stay in the hole, and those that find a way to jump out.

Now, here is the kicker.

The difference, the deal breaker the big momma here is ONE thing.

Staying stuck or jumping out depends on just ONE variable.

YOU!

That’s right. It depends entirely and completely on YOU.

Sure, it’s great to blame your boss, your bad luck, your non-understanding partner, lack of time, global climate change and that fart in the elevator for your misfortune (now you know why I never use elevators), but it really just comes down to this – a lack of action.

Think about it – what do you do when you are stuck?

What kind of action do you take?

When I say action, I mean rolling up your sleeves and getting the real work done. The tough stuff.

Let’s use an example.

If you are in bad shape right now, if you need to lose fat fast and become healthy again, what do you do?

Do you stay thinking about it?

Do you read articles and watch those damn motivational movies on YouTube and wish for better?

Plan to start in January? And eat another cookie…because you’ll burn it off when you start anyway?

Or do you find the absolute best coach in your area and book an introductory session with him tonight at 5pm?

Yes tonight. Not tomorrow. Tonight.

DO WHAT WORKS

Which of the above approaches do you think will work?

You see, most people actually convince themselves they have done the best they can and then…do nothing at all.

They give themselves permission to fail but coming up with excuses to justify their complacency.

And then, they are surprised when they get nowhere at all.

So let’s make a difference shall we?

Here is my 7 step method for getting out of the damn hole.

First

By all means, get inspired. Fine someone with an inspirational story. Someone who has beaten the odds to get to a better place. It sets a fire under you.

Second

What is your dream? Why are you doing what you are doing? Do you want to fit into s smaller dress? Do you want to look good at the end of year party? Dreams are usually the biggest motivator of them all.

Third

Visualize and write down exactly where you want to go from here. What do you really want? A promotion at work? Losing 10kg of fat? What’s your goal? (You see, goals and dreams are different things).

Fourth

Find the method used by someone who has already done the legwork. Don’t waste time trying to re-invent the wheel. A stupid person learns from their own mistakes. A wise one learns from those of others.

Fifth

Adapt what you have learn to yourself. Not everything will be a perfect fit. Sometimes, you need to suit things to yourself.

Sixth

TAKE ACTION. I cannot emphasize this enough. Do something about it. Put in the elbow grease. Give yourself some sweat, some blood and some tears. Only action will ever get you where you want to go. No amount of wishful thinking or finger pointing will.

Seventh

This is the zinger. If you cannot do it yourself, get a great coach to help you do it. Why they hell are you wasting time?

Do it, do it, DO IT!

You only get paid for DONE.

And there you have it. Sorry if I didn’t have the magical cure you wanted. There is no magic here. It’s just about stepping into the ring and rolling with the punches.

And that is how champions are made.